Posts Tagged ‘ Beyonce ’

Booty Shakin…sick of it..did I mention I’m sick of it

Last week I asked my Facebook fam to give me suggestions for my blog. One of the suggestions came from a young lady who, like me, is sick and tired sick and damn tired of seeing booty shakin’ and booty wrangin’ (as my grandma calls it) on BET.

BET has gotten to the point where it is almost shameful. I used to think that maybe the head honchos over at BET didn’t realize that children were watching, but then I woke up and accepted the fact that the head honchos over at BET didn’t give a damn about corrupting the minds of the children that are watching. It is all about the Benjamins and obviously this day and age booty shakin’ brings in lots of Benjamins. The show 106 & Park on BET is geared towards teens, and I swear everytime I see a peek of it (by mistake) somebody is poppin, lockin or droppin. The show has very high ratings, and the children can learn all the hot, new twirk moves from the comfort of their own home. Just flip to 106 & Park and learn how twirk twirk that thang. smh…BET has to do better.

Music videos on BET in my opinion are borderline Soft Porn. The only thing missing is the actual act of sex, even though I am pretty sure that I caught a glimpse of a lil sex in the new Trey Songz video I Invented Sex.

I know many will argue that it is ultimately up to the parents to monitor what their children watch and hear, but let’s get real folks a lot of the music today is filled with pure, unadulterated corruption. There is enough vioence and sex in it to last these children a lifetime.

But let’s take a trip back in time. Do yall remember when Donnie Simpson hosted Video Soul on BET? Now THAT was a music video show.  (I had no idea Donnie was doing this now, just shows I’m not keeping up) I swear BET has soooo fallen off since then. Take a look at what we are now missing because BET has chosen to air music video  programs that for the most part have no sustenance and show black people in a not so positive light.

Donnie Simpson interview w/Angela Winbush (still love me some Angela!!)

Donnie Simpson interview w/ El DeBarge (I love me some El..and I like it and I like it 🙂

Karyn White performing live on Video Soul

Sherry Carter interview w/Envogue

…speaking of En Vogue, whatever happened to female singing groups that had more than one singer that could lead a song? I’m just saying, it’s okay to be able to dance and take care of backgrounds, but what about a group with the total package? Whatever happened to that?

That trip down memory lane makes me even more disgruntled by what you can see on music video programs today, especially those aired on BET. In case you don’t watch, here is what you are missing, but your children are seeing on BET…care to take a look….

Ester Dean f/Chris Brown-Drop it Low  (then even hump the floor on that one) ||blank stare||

Beyonce Kitty Kat  (luv me some Beyonce, but she does too much gyrating and twirking for the kiddos watching)

Along with the booty shaking and floor humping BET also offers a huge variety of music based solely on stuntin, driving new whips and wearing shiny jewelry.  I won’t get into that much because I have discussed it before and it hurts my head to think that so many songs can be written, recorded and made into videos over the same crappy, blingy, stuntin hot mess. ugh

I am honestly thinking of adding BET to my list of things I am silently protesting…well not so silently protesting. But it does mean that I will not watch, contribute funds to, or co-sign on behalf of it once it lands on the silent protest list. R. Kelly has been there so long that he is collecting dust.

I feel that it is time for black music and the lovers of black music to take a stand and bring back the music that we grew to love. Music that touched the soul and Set You Adrift On Memory Bliss. (luv that song to this day) Enough of the exploiting of black women, enough of the cursing and turning every song into a contest of who has the most bling. Who cares?

Whatever happened to music like this…

Zhane-Sending My Love to You

Sure they showed a little skin, but there was no twirking and gyrating. There was no one with a platinum grill in their mouth screaming obscenities and bobbing up and down.

Of course there is still good music out there. Not all artist have the limited talents of only making pop lock and drop it music or rapping about their new chains. Some artists still write from their heart and not their other lusting body parts. The chore is sifting out the crap to find the goodies.


The Beauty of BLACK

type-setWhen asked who was more beautiful, Beyonce or India Arie, 90% of the people polled from the radio station said that India Arie was more beautiful.

I heard this on the Michael Baisden Show and as I recall he was only asking the younger people who they considered more beautiful. According to the results, the young people said that in their opinion it was India Arie.

Here is my problem with that, of the 90% that voted that India Arie was more beautiful, 40% of them were only saying India Arie to fit in with the blackness of the poll and topic at hand. Of the remaining 50% assuming half of them were males, if put in a real life situation and neither Beyonce nor India Arie were celebrities, they would approach Beyonce before they would India Arie.

One young lady called and stated that she thought that Beyonce was more attractive than India Arie. She said that if she didn’t know anything about either woman, hadn’t heard their music or anything about them, her choice would be Beyonce. Then a male caller stated that India Arie was more beautiful and that when people say that Beyonce is more beautiful it has something to do with how they were raised and that he was raised not to automatically think that a lighter skinned person was more attractive than a darker skinned person.

((but does a person stating that Beyonce is more beautiful automatically mean they chose her because she is lighter skinned??))

….  thoughts on this very topic have been rolling around in my head over this for a while. 

Black is beautiful. There are many shades of black and none outshine the other. The shades range from shades of tan to deep browns, each beautiful and black. However there are some black people who have gotten on a black power kick and suddenly feel that anyone who has relaxed hair, wears a weave, fake nails or doesn’t burn incense and plan rallies are somehow faking the funk. Somehow if you do any of the things listed above you are not embracing your African American culture.

I truly don’t believe that just because you relax your hair or wear hair extensions that you are any less black than a sista who wears her hair natural. And I also don’t believe that just because a person thinks Beyonce is more attractive than India Arie that they are somehow racially blindfolded and have issues with being black. True, some of those people would only say Beyonce because she is lighter skinned, but some would say she is more beautiful to them than India Arie because they prefer a Beyonce type sista over an India Arie type sista. Is that wrong? NO, it isn’t.  Just as some men would prefer India Arie because they love her look, some would choose Beyonce because they are more attracted to her.

African Americans have enough historical baggage surrounding skin color and self love, so why is that centuries later, now instead of house nigga versus field nigga, we are now battling over skin color, what is actually beautiful and what is actually real when it comes to our physical appearances? 

Black is Beautiful PERIOD so why are we trying to define which aspects of a black person is beautiful?

Why should a person have to choose to wear their hair in the natural form to be considered real? Is the realness of black beauty defined by a person’s hair?

Why should a person have to say that darker skin is more beautiful than lighter skin in order to be embracing their roots? Is the realness in the shade of black?

No, it isn’t.

Black is beautiful let that be the end of the sentence. There should be no conforming or need to conform to what certain people have concluded to be the beauty of blackness….