Sex Offenders and Halloween

sad pumpkinThere’ll be no Halloween this year…well at least not for many sex offenders in TN.

I was pleased to read in the Commercial Appeal  that the State of  TN has put  some very strict regulations in place for sex offenders concerning the Halloween holiday. The regulations apply to those offenders who are under the supervision of the State Board of Probation and Parole.  These restrictions include the following things that sex offenders are not allowed to do for the Halloween holiday:

–They cannot take any child, including their own, trick-or-treating.

–Neither they, nor anyone in their home, can answer the door to trick-or-treaters, or give out candy or treats.

–Their homes cannot be decorated for Halloween, either inside or outside.

–They cannot host Halloween parties at their homes and cannot wear costumes.

–They cannot go to haunted houses, corn mazes, hay rides or any other seasonal activity.

–They cannot be at any function where children are gathered, including private residences.

For the most part the list seems pretty fair. But, not being allowed to hang Halloween decorations outside OR inside their homes seems pretty far-fetched and ridiculous. The rest of the list is understandable. If you have been convicted of a sex crime, especially one involving a child, you shouldn’t be in any location or situation where you may be tempted again. (but wouldn’t every holiday OR every day possibly include something “tempting”)

I can truly understand the State’s position on setting these restrictions. I understand that the goal of these restrictions is to protect the public, especially the children from sex offenders. But not allowing them to participate in any kind of Halloween activities with their own children doesn’t seem sensible. If so how safe are their children living in the same residences with them? How safe are the neighbor’s children or the children they see at the grocery store or even at church? And if the state is going to set limitations for Halloween, what will be next, harvest festivals and Christmas caroling?  Will they also stop them from going to places such as amusement parks? Kids love to go there too!

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Hide in the Closet Pleeeaaase Part I

(repost from Multiply.com)

Today I decided to try and log into my old Multiply.com account and to my surprise I remembered the username and password  (I haven’t been over there in ages) Well back when I was a part of that community, I did a segment of blogs called “Da Dilemma” blogs. Each post was a story that was based on a specific dilemma. I loved those blogs 🙂 I decided that I will post some of them here. I hope you enjoy!

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Da Dilemma: Hide in the Closet Pleeeaaase Part I

closetdoorRita Jones is trying something new in life. She is 30 yrs old, single and ready to mingle. In the past she has had a hard time with relationships so now she is no longer looking for Mr. Right. With her new outlook on love also came a new outlook on life, including a move to a nicer apartment and a new job.

About a month after she moved into the new apartment she noticed that her next door neighbor was quite a handsome guy and since she was trying “something new” She decided to ask him out. After they were both in the elevator one day, she made small talk with him, found out that his name was Shon and he was single so Rita asked him out. He agreed and actually seemed a little bit surprised that she had taken the initiative to ask him out.

After about a month of casual dating and sex, Rita realized that she liked Shon a little bit more than she wanted to admit, but they both had agreed that they wouldn’t push the relationship thing. One night while having drinks at Shon’s apartment, there was a knock at the door. Both Shon and Rita seemed surprised because he never had visitors unless it was one of his boys and no one ever showed up unexpectedly. Shon went to answer the door and Rita immediately knew that something was wrong. Shon came back without opening the door and Rita noticed that he was kind of tip toeing. He had a worried look on his face when he sat down beside Rita on the sofa. Rita asked him what was wrong and he looked at her and said “Rita I hate to ask you this, but can you go hide in the guest bedroom closet, I wouldn’t ask you this if it weren’t an emergency, but I really need you to go in there, it won’t be for long”.

Rita knew he had to be kidding, she was a grown ass woman and she was not about to go hide in someone’s closet for any reason…emergency or not. Rita blatantly told Shon no, and he damn near begged her to go hide in the closet. When she saw how serious he was about it she asked him who was at the door and he refused to tell her, he just said he needed her to get in the closet and he would explain later.

After he begged a little bit more Rita agreed, but told him that if it took more than fifteen minutes she wouldn’t care who was in there with him, she was coming out and demanding an explanation. Rita picked up her pumps from the floor, grabbed her purse and went to hide in the closet.

Rita sat in that closet for what seemed like an eternity. She looked at her watch and realized that she had been in there almost 30 minutes. Just as she was about to open the closet door she heard Shon out in the hallway arguing with a man. He kept saying over and over to Shon “I know what the fuck you are doing, you think you are so smart I know it Shon I know it.” Rita remained in the closet not knowing what to do. The guy then told Shon that he was not leaving until he found out the truth.

Rita didn’t know what to do. Next came loud thumps and bumps as if Shon and the guy were fighting. Then she heard a loud crash and she KNEW they were fighting. Rita stood in the closet feeling trapped and scared. She didn’t know who this guy was or what he was capable of, but she knew she couldn’t stay in the closet all night….

…so she just stood there..listening and waiting.

Should Rita stay in the closet until Shon tells her it is okay to come out, or does she come out and face whatever lies ahead?

Somehow we done got it twisted

8596-largeI recently witnessed a woman falling out, crying and screaming obscenities at the police for arresting her son-in-law and his brother for selling drugs and gambling.  These same two young men shoot dice and deal drugs all day, every day on the mother’s front porch.

….somehow we done got it twisted!

Now some of you may not see a problem with this, but BGT does. It has come to my attention that many black mothers have it twisted. No, actually they have it turnt upside down or bottom ways up as my grandmother would say.

Far too many black women are applauding bad behavior from the males in their family. They smile and accept baby after baby out-of-wedlock from their sons, but raise hell when their “baby boy”wants to get married. They cause all kinds of drama, hoping to save their son from marriage, BUT they had no problem when he was making those sweet little grand babies unmarried.  On other occasions they are aware of their sons criminal behavior, yet they have the audacity to get offended if the police take them to jail. They call that picking on them. Ok well maam if your son is on the corner selling drugs day in and day out, he is leaving himself open to be picked on.

It bothers me that mothers are not only gladly accepting bad behavior from their sons but they are his cheerleader and co-signer for bad behavior.  It is almost as if things have been twisted. These mothers stick up for hoodlum sons who do everything under the sun, and get upset when society labels them criminals and thugs. Maam, your son calls himself a thug in your presence, so why is it a problem when society labels him as a thug.

Somehow we done got it twisted…

I remember growing up and mothers not caring if their son was seven or seventeen. If you got out of line you would get put back in line. Nowadays grown men are living with their mothers, with their baby mama, the two children he has by her, the two children she had from a previous relationship, his best friend Clyde, Clyde’s girlfriend and their dog Rufus. They all live with the mother and she has no problem with all of these grown tale folks shackin’ at her house. She even keeps the sweet  grand babies so they can go out and party and come home high.

Again…somehow we done got it twisted….

When did it become okay to accept criminal behavior and triflingness from your children. I mean sure enough when they are grown you cannot control their actions, but you can still make sure that they know it is wrong. You can still tell them that you don’t agree with it and that you in no way support illegal activity and will have no part of it. Instead a lot of black mothers act as if society is picking on their babies and he is only doing the best he can. Oh really, is that the best he can do? Well damn, thats shameful then!

Black mothers need to learn to realize that loving your son does not mean co-signing on a triflin lifestyle. Regardless of what our children do, we love them. A mother’s love should be unconditional. But accepting and going along with mess is unacceptable mothers. Let’s quit babying these grown men as if they don’t know right from wrong. A mother should feel comfortable knowing that she taught her children right from wrong and if they choose to do wrong it wasn’t because they weren’t taught any better.

 

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Rocky Mount Murders Go Unsolved and Unpublicized

Rocky Mount MurdersTen women in Rocky Mount, North Carolina have either been found dead or have vanished. Are they the victims of a serial killer?

This is a story I heard about via a friend’s Facebook page. I was appalled that so many women have either gone missing or been found dead in this small town and I have not heard about it once on the news.

Rocky Mount has a population of approximately 60,000 people and is what most of us would consider a small town. The population is 40% White and more than 50% black. Many people in the town believe that this is the reason the vanishings and murders have not drawn much media attention. All of the women missing or slain are black. Many of them have criminal backgrounds which include arrests for drugs and/or prostitution. This, many believe, is the cause of the lack of attention by law enforcement and the news to these cases.

 How is it possible that ten women are either dead or declared missing in a town of only 60,000 people and the news not be all over this story?  We all know that when stories like those of  Laci Peterson and Jessie Marie Davis took place, CNN and every other news outlet flooded the airwaves each and every day with live coverage of the stories. So why isn’t that the case for Rocky Mount, North Carolina? Why are these tragic events not being broadcast day and night? Why aren’t Nancy Grace and Katie Couric giving us the latest information on these stories?

Could the answer possibly be BLACK and WHITE?

Both Lacie Peterson and Jessie Marie Davis were white, so was Chandra Levy. The stories of these women were aired constantly on the news. Everyone knew about them because everyone heard about them. BUT  Jarneice Hargrove, Yolanda Lancaster, Taraha Nicholson and the other seven women missing or either found dead along rural roads in Rocky Mount are all black.

The residents of Rocky Point are frustrated with law enforcement’s efforts (or lack of ) to find the person responsible for the crimes. Many believe that a serial killer is targeting their town. The police have stated that they have not found that the murders are all related, therefore they have not concluded that this is the work of a serial killer.

Regardless of the how they lived their lives; the women missing or murdered in Rocky Mount deserve justice. Color should not be an issue. Each and every case should have as much importance as those of the white women killed that the nation got the opportunity to hear about daily.

To read more about this story, click here or visit the Rocky Mount Telegram to follow their updated stories.

also…

Stephanie Jones who knew two of the murdered women, founded a group called Murdered or Missing Sisters to publicize the Rocky Mount muders.

Reason # 15874 Why we ♥ Michelle Obama

Reason # 15874 Why we ♥ Michelle Obama=She is NORMAL

M Obama double dutchHave you seen the pictures of the First Lady Michelle Obama hula hoopin and jumpin’ a lil Double Dutch. If we didn’t know any better we’d think she was normal..oh right…SHE IS NORMAL..and in my opinion that is one of the main reasons I am soooo proud to have a down to earth, relatable 1st Lady.

I admire Mrs. Obama. She remains grounded even though her husband is the President of the United States of America. She is still a mother and wife and she can still relate to the people. I can’t say that for the previous first ladies. Not only did they appear unapproachable and stiff, but I doubt you would have caught either one of them out on the front lawn of the White House with a hula hoop or a jump rope. Can you imagine Barbara Bush doing anything with a hula hoop besides putting it away?  However OUR first lady said bring it on, she got out there and gave it a go. Reports say she didn’t do so well with jumping rope double dutch, but I bet you anything even if they had tossed out a lil hot peas she would have tried it too. You go Michelle. (Look at me calling her by her first name like I know her personally lol, but thats just how down to earth she seems, and oh btw, cute outfit Michelle 🙂

The festivities that took place on the front lawn of the White House were not just for fun. They were part of The Healthy Kids Fair, hosted on October 21, 2009 by none other than the First Lady herself. Mrs. Obama invited about one hundred children and parents from local elementary schools to attend.  The fair was intended to encourage children to be more active and eat better. It included exercise activities and a chef preparing healthy foods on the front lawn of the White House.  Mrs. Obama spoke to the children about eating healthy and emphasized that you can have fun while eating healthy!

read more here

Can we say GO Mrs. Obama!

Get Yo Husband!

Marriage Ain’t About Shit!

adultry-tourismOr at least that’s what a married man told me yesterday AFTER he asked for my phone number and AFTER he admitted to being married. This was BEFORE I said “No thank you, I don’t date married men.” and BEFORE I wanted to throw up in my mouth at this po pimp wearing Air  Jordans.

You could tell he thought he was hot stuff, but honestly the only two people who believed he was hot stuff were most likely he and his wife. And if she knew he was standing here smiling like a Cheshire cat, trying to obtain a mistress, she might view him differently also…or maybe she wouldn’t.

So many women these days are so happy to have a man…any man…that any kind of ole triflin behavior is accepted. I don’t know if this “acceptance” by wives and mistresses is part of the reason so many men are stepping out, or if too many men just aren’t taking their marriages seriously. Whatever the cause, I wanna scream “Get Yo Husband!”  ugh…

It seems to happen to me quite frequently. Someone’s husband approaches me looking for a good time, I see a ring on his finger and give him the big N-O. I know it may be a rarity these days to find a woman who will turn down a good time with a married man and whats in his wallet, but this chicka will pass on enjoying anyone else’s husband.

The Po Pimp who approached me yesterday obviously felt his nice, clean Jordans could possibly sway me to hop aboard his adultery train, but he had the wrong sistah. Not only do I not want any kind of relations (sexual or non sexual) with anybody’s husband, but I am utterly annoyed when someone’s husband approaches me and has the nerve to admit they are married and then casually say “But that doesn’t matter.”  They admit to being married, but like this Po Pimp they say either their marriage is on the verge of ending or that marriage isn’t all that it is cracked up to be. Negro puhleaze you all say that. But I wonder if you relay these same tidbits of information to your wives. They proclaim that  they won’t out, but they have too much responsibility tied to the marriage., BUT they say, those things won’t affect what we could have.

It sure won’t because we WON’T have anything. BGT says no to riding the married man train.  I also say no to po pimps, married or unmarried lol

sidenote: you gotta love Urban Dictionary’s 2nd definition of Po Pimp –>a po pimp is a pimp with no money and some busted, loose, broke ass hoes.  

LMAO…hilarious…but oh so true!

Memphis Child Dies in House Fire After Being Left Home Alone :(

Update to this story

The second child from this story, the 2 year old has since passed away. The mother, Melanie Dunn, who left the two and three year old boys home alone has still not be charged with anything. The District Attorney’s office says they are still reviewing the file and is waiting on more crucial information to the case before they make a decision.

 Read more here and here

                                                Some things arthumb_1256009482606_0p8113213528964526e more than upsetting….they are disturbing. When I heard this story on the news I gasped. (House Catches Fire Killing 3yr Old Child After the 2 and 3 Yr Old Were Left Home Alone). I cannot believe that someone could care so less about human life that they could neglect two precious children and have no remorse about one being killed and the other being in critical condition.

If you watched the video you see the great aunt speak on what happened to these children as if it were nothing. As if to say oh well, they shouldn’t have started that fire. Oh and btw I need my food stamp card, I hope it wasn’t burned in the fire. Excuse my language but Bitch are you Crazy???   Your hot mess ass and your triflin hot mess niece shouldn’t have left two toddlers home alone to take care of themselves.

Personally I think the community should have gotten together, whipped both their asses while the news filmed it. Either that or they should have both been tossed in the fire after they casually strolled back on the scene AFTER the house was on fire and the children were being rushed to the ER. Then the police should have arrested the mother and the great aunt and threw both their asses underneath the jail.

When did taking care of your children, supporting them and protecting them become an option?

Stories like this bother me way deep down in my soul because these children were innocent. Even if they did something to start the fire, they were not old enough to be left alone nor  were they old enough to know right from wrong. It was the responsibility of their mother to take care of them and protect them. Not to leave them alone to fend for themselves while she did some shopping.

Then the audacity of the snaggle toothed aunt to speak to the news stating that not only did they leave the two children alone when the fire started, but they had also left them alone earlier in the day. Which means that these two babies were probably left alone countless times. 

The family stated that  the mother Melanie Dunn is the single mother of three children….

ok what does that mean?  That is no excuse for her stupid decision to neglect her children. She still knew not to leave those children alone and needs to be punished to the highest degree for her actions.

I am sooooo sick of parents forgetting that they have a responsibility to take care of their children and do right by them. It is not an option or a choice it is your DUTY.

I pray that the child who is in the hospital recovers and he and his older brother are placed in the home of someone who can take care of them and put their needs first.